celticpyro:

sapphicrevan:

celticpyro:

I’m all for not sticking to strict gender roles but the main
issue I have with Tumblr Softboy Culture is the idea that being unmasculine
makes you a morally better person, when in reality it doesn’t.

what i find funny about it is that men did this in the 70s when they were Sensitive Hippies and in the 00s when they were Metrosexual and In Touch With Their Feelings and all these men still ended up abusing women, they just coated it differently. my father was a Sensitive Anti-Masculine Hippie who knew that Men Can Cry and yet that didn’t stop him from creating an emotionally, financially and verbally abusive and controlling environment for his wife and his two kids, who are all in therapy and permanently damaged. it’s not new and it’s still just as insidious.

Almost like abuse isn’t inherently tied to masculine behavior and just has to do with being a shitty person.