patron-saint-of-smart-asses:

“People only stayed married so long in the past because a majority of women were stuck in abusive relationships and had no way out!!!” is so full of crap. Just because domestic abuse was not taken as seriously or as well understood as it is today doesn’t mean that all men were abusive assholes until laws changed. There were plenty of loving marriages that faced the worst that life could throw at them (especially considering things like early child death being more common, as an example), and they got through it with selfless love and mutual respect. Something that is very obviously lacking in today’s society of high divorce rates that dismiss the emotional and psychological needs of children in broken families.

I’m not here trying to romanticize ye olden times because they definitely had their problems, but guess what? We got our own problems too. Children are growing up having to hide their true feelings and needs in families rife with divorce and neglect and we throw it under the rug of “““progress”““. Little kids are replacing a missing mother or father with toxic modalities and we pretend that such things are part of “”“familial diversity”””. People are left vulnerable to further abuse and toxicity because they lacked a proper home that they needed and deserved as children but are told that it was “““for the best”““.

Not that civil divorce has no place in this world for reasons of safety/domestic violence (I am not arguing against that, if that wasn’t obvious), but stop using their suffering to cover up the reality that people abuse this system for convenience. People get married not fully understanding the importance of their union and cause others to suffer for their mistakes when they give up. Marriage and family both deserve so much more respect and reverence than this, WE deserve better than this.