patron-saint-of-smart-asses:

doctorbluesmanreturns:

prolifeproliberty:

fvckinrvd:

No no no no

COMMUNICATE. Don’t expect people to read your mind. TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT/EXPECT.

If this guy cares about you, he will want to make you happy. He just needs to know how.

If you’re still not sure that communication is necessary in relationships, go read the lyrics to Escape (the piña colada song). Then imagine if the characters in the song had had one (1) conversation about what they each wanted from a relationship.

It’s honestly really baffling to me that not communicating is actively used as relationship advice. Like for a personal example, my girlfriend loves to eat. She’s joked more than once that her favorite food is “all of them”. But she can’t eat chocolate because it exacerbates her headaches. If I hadn’t asked her about if she had food allergies or anything like that, I’d never have known, and I’m sure that somewhere down the line I’d have tried to surprise her with a huge chocolate dessert and made her sick because I’d just have assumed that she loved chocolate.

Please don’t just make assumptions about the person you’re planning on spending your life with, TALK TO THEM ABOUT EVERYTHING.

Every woman has different needs and tastes and that’s why dating is important: you learn about each other. Even after dating people change so you gotta speak up.

And beyond that, why are men expected to be the performers? Men have their needs too.