DO NOT DISMISS SOMETHING A CHILD IS PROUD OF. LOOK AT IT. POINT SOMETHING OUT AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE IT. IF A CHILD DRAWS YOU A RAINBOW, TELL THEM YOU LOVE HOW IT HAS RED. THEY WILL THINK “WOW. IT DOES HAVE RED. THEY LOVE HOW I PUT RED IN IT. I PUT RED IN IT. AND THEY NOTICED.” MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD KNOWS YOU ARE PROUD OF THEM.
Always motivate your children to see the good in what they do as a result of the work they put in.
Tag: children
Tyler and Beaker, best friends forever
Raising children right.
Doing this with my kid, too precious!
We’ve started saying the St. Michael prayer at school this year and the kids are super into it, and let me tell you, there is nothing quite like an auditorium full of children enthusiastically praying “cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits that prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls” to get you in that angelic warfare mood.
I recently saw a video of a weather newscaster babywearing her toddler in a wrap as she worked, and it reminded me of a photo I once saw of a midwife nursing her baby after helping her patient deliver her own newborn. Of course, this lead to those stories of professors holding children of their students when they get fussy during a lecture, and then that lead to me recalling awesome workplaces where they have on-site daycare and the parents can visit their child or baby periodically throughout the workday. And like…
I love this. For decades women have been told that they can’t breastfeed AND work at the same time. That they can’t have both a family and contribute financially for that family outside the home. Even fathers have been discouraged and penalized from helping their wives after childbirth or wanting to spend time and take care of their kids.
Things are changing. It’s taking quite a while for it to be more widespread, but things. are. changing. Rights of men and women have improved when organizations and nations recognize the importance of children and family rights, of protecting the rights of pregnant and parenting students and workers. Workplaces that support the family dynamic see good business and even healthier workers.
And all because they don’t separate the worker/student from the family. The family is a cohesive unit that, when cherished and supported, leads to a healthier society.
Children can only be our demise and hindrance if we insist that they are not a part of our lives. Respect children and the family, and you see a greater respect for overall human life.
Children/teens aren’t allowed to be sad or in a bad mood because they can get yelled at for it and ridiculed and told to ‘change your attitude or I will for you’, while adults who are sad or in a bad mood, are allowed to yell at and take their frustration out on the kids. Adult privilege huh?
And when the adult is in a bad mood, it’s the kids job to step on eggshells in order to keep them from not exploding, and when they do, it’s on them.
And when the child is in the bad mood, it’s their job to try to hide it, and when they break apart trying to, it’s on them.
What extra sucks about this is that adults literally have more experience, context, perspective, and brain development to help them manage emotions. Adults who do this are shit. We are the adults, we should not be expecting kids who are still developing and learning about the world and trying to figure out their place in it to be the ones who are emotionally mature.
People who treat adulthood like a power trip are honestly shit and should not have authority over kids.
In honor of St. Francis’s feast day
Let us all remember the time a friend’s little brother dressed up as Saint Francis for an All-Saints’-day party. After a while the mom noticed that he was getting visibly upset, so she pulled him aside from the other kids, tried to calm him down, and asked what was wrong. Borderline hysterical, he sobbed, “They keep saying…. Saint Francis… is a sissy…. and he’s not a sissy, he’s not!”
Everyone had been complimenting him on his “St. Francis of Asissi” costume.
Wide Spread Interests 