Modern society is very focused on self-satisfying, which religion tends to stay away from. There’s also a lot of rifts being created by modern politics and movements like feminism. It’s sad ):
Tag: dating
“wait for him to make the first move!!!” or, OR, you could show interest and initiate a friendship before he does if you are truly interested because those games are stupid and stifling for no good reason.
#he aint gonna make the first move if you dont act like you even enjoy his presence
And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why acting aloof or not wanting to express interest HURTS dating, for either sex.
pro tip: before getting serious w a man, just casually mention ur period. like, just say ‘my cramps are bad rn’ or ‘I have to go buy some pads’. his reaction is very telling of how mature and understanding he is. you don’t wanna be dating a grown ass man who gets grossed out by the word menstruation. u deserve someone who is comfortable w u and I do mean all of u. you’ll be thanking urself for doing it now and not later hun!
THIS IS REALLY INDICATIVE OF HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS. TRUST ME.
True story. Once, I dated a guy once that wouldn’t let me pay for my own pads him he has with me. He wouldn’t go out and buy them himself if I needed them though. I had to stand next to him, which defeated the whole reason for him going to buy me any. Was uncomfortable with period talk and letting me pay for things myself.
Once, I also dated a guy that wouldn’t even stand in the pads alley with him. It grossed him out. Everything about my period grossed him out and he didn’t want to touch me. Just left me alone and didn’t want to deal with any of it. Wouldn’t even stand next to me when I bought pads.
Now, the guy I’m with and going to marry, he is a whole different story. I was dying of cramps and got my period while finishing up a class. (My campus can get very bad to the point where I’m shaking in pain or unable to move) Mistakenly didn’t bring pads and texted I needed him to do me the biggest favor. Not only did he buy me pads (something he does from time to time when I need them) but he marched through campus with them not bothering to hide it and brought me Advil.
Last week, I was dying in pain and lost my hot pack when I went to visit my mother. I asked him to buy me a new one and he forgot. So, I’m in massive pain near tears and it’s past ten at night wishing I hadn’t been so stupid as to lose it. He gets dressed and goes out to get me a hot pack even when I tell him over and over that I can wait until morning and I don’t want him to go not because he needs to go to bed.
He flat out says “I love you. You asked me to get you a hot pack and I forgot. Now, you are in a lot of pain and I can’t stand to see that. So, I’m getting you the hot pack and I’ll be back soon.” Comes back with the hot pack, ice cream and a candy bar.
Not saying all men need to be this level of nice. But I am saying that bring up your period in a casual manner is a great way to see how people will treat you when you are sick, not feeling well, or just basically how they handled things.
ACTUALLY THEY DO NEED TO BE THAT LEVEL OF NICE THOUGH
You are absolutely correct, and I was a fool not to realize it sooner.
My grampa was like this. I still remember sitting in the bathroom throwing up, because hella period nausea, and him holding my hair out of my face and like … not exactly rubbing my back. Sort of patting it. Like he was trying to be comforting but wasn’t quite sure how, because a 17-year-old girl throwing up and crying and telling him this was normal was outside his wheelhouse, which, given that he was in his 70s at the time and married my grandma when she was already in menopause, is understandable. Anyway, he went and called his niece for advice. She told him to give me plain herbal tea for pain (since Advil wasn’t staying down) and put me to bed, and he did and asked if I needed anything from the store, and went out and bought me pads and extra herbal tea, and called my school and told them I was sick and he was keeping me home.
If a man born in 1929 can pull it off, boys, so can you.
kelsei-is-just-whelmed-by-you:
How do you guys feel about this:
Take your age, divide it in half, then add 7. The resulting number is the absolute minimum age you should date someone without it being too big a gap.
Okay, after some quick deliberation, change the 7 to a 9, how does it work out then?
lmao I did this for my husband and I got my exact age.
I used to do this. The 7 one, I broke once and that relationship was shit. And 9 I could get behind now because 18 is too young for 22 lol
library date?? coffee shop date??? museum date?? art gallery date?? stargazing date?? napping date?? picnic date??? yes
This needed to be said
To any upcoming freshmen: don’t date seniors
I think this is important to reblog; protect freshmen from creepy seniors. No matter how much you think they like you, they’re manipulating you. Don’t date seniors if you’re only a freshmen. Especially protect freshmen girls. Be careful
When I was about to start high school, my mom told me that senior boys were grown men, and if any were interested in me then I should ask myself why they, as adults, were interested in a kid right out of middle school. And why they couldn’t get someone their own age.
Be safe, kiddos. A year counts a lot more when you’re younger, and the kind of senior who wants to date a freshman is well aware of this.
I’d apply this to college too. Age gap isn’t quite as important when you’re 18-22 but I’d be wary if some senior is paying close attention to a freshman
If you’re going to date someone, you arent just dating their sweet side, you’re also dating their mood swings, their bad moods, their good moods, when they arent being themselves for weeks on end. You’re also dating everything else they have to offer
Wide Spread Interests 