friends are not people to drop once you get a boyfriend or girlfriend.
friends are not a phase of childhood that you grow out of once you become an “adult” due to having a romantic relationship.
friends are not empty vessels for you to dump your romantic problems onto.
cultivate your friendships. hold onto them. love them. because if what you have with your partner doesn’t work out, you may not find those friends to go back to.
I want you to reblog this if you believe that two people can be very close and physically affectionate with one another, but still have a completely nonsexual, non-romantic relationship.
Even if the two people in question are capable of being sexually or romantically attracted to one another.
Because the friendship I share with someone I consider family in a way that transcends blood has been typecast as a romantic relationship ENTIRELY too many times, and I’m beginning to get sick of it.
Non-sexual, non-romantic physical affection is a thing, people.
Yeah I’ve had like a million people think that my best friend and I are dating. Like no, mate, he’s just my best friend and excuse me if I walk through the hallways at school holding his hand because he’s having a bad day (anxiety wise) or if I have my arm around his waist because he’s super light headed and hasn’t eaten anything except for lifesavers mints (it happens more often than you might think lol).
I have no idea when humankind started confusing intimacy with sex/romance but it would be awesome if we could stop.
When you get married to your best friend, it’s THE BEST. Take note, though, you also will still need other friends, too That doesn’t mean that person isn’t enough in their role in your life, it just means you need other people, too (you both do!) and shouldn’t only rely on one person for everything- no one person can be everything for you, ever. Unless it’s Jesus, which is why it’s so important He’s central to all your other relationships. So if you think ‘Imma marry my best friend and that will be the only friend I need once I have them’ you’re wrong. Keep cultivating other meaningful relationships. None will replace or be the same as your romantic partner bestie, but you both still need other people in your life you can depend on and grow with.
Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
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