“The only way to fight the lie of sinful pleasure is with the truth of
righteous pleasure. When you come to know God fully—that “in his
presence is fullness of joy and at his right hand are pleasures
forevermore"—then you will have conquered Satan once for all. He is a
liar and has no power over those who know God in truth.”– John Piper, Satan Uses Sexual Desire
Important short talk on how how current medical researchers ‘uni-sex’ approach is fundamentally flawed by not taking into account the cells XX or XY factors right from the beginning.
“Current attitudes toward menstruation, fertility, pregnancy, childbirth, and nursing reflect a porn-educated gaze that suppresses disgust by indulging the illusion of a purely erotic world. Female fertility is shocking, precisely because it turns a woman’s body from sexual to maternal, erotic to nurturing. The child is the ultimate rupture of the porn world. Menstruation and female fertility is societally suppressed, and largely silenced, not simply for the sake of convenience, but as a result of the pornographic education that turned these natural parts of sex into unnatural interruptions of sexuality, ruined that vision of genital organs as solely erotic, arousing organs.”
— “What happens to our culture when pornography defines sex”
One last thought:
The reason why having children/being open to children is SO CRUCIAL for a sacramental marriage is because children are the natural fruit of intercourse.
The intention to have children within a marriage is important because you can’t separate children from sexual relationships of any kind without introducing toxic mindsets that defy natural law as set down by God. This includes things like sexual exploitation and abortion.
We talk big all the time about how sex leads to pregnancy, about how birth control can’t always prevent pregnancy because of failure rates, about how people should be avoiding sex altogether if they would rather abort than take care of the child that results from sexual activity. We talk so big on the importance of the family unit within society, and the need to accept life as it comes.
You can’t say “pregnancy is a natural result of sex/is a blessing and we should stop anti-child bigotry in our culture” and then turn around and say, “Married couples, who have exclusive access to sexual intercourse, have every right to never have even one child if they wish.” What if they do end up pregnant one day? After all, they entered into a union thinking that they would never have kids and they would never want any, with every right to do so, and with a limiting mindset like that you expect them to actually understand the nature and responsibilities of marital life?
God gave humans the blessing to be fruitful and multiply: whether the fruit for them is one child or many. God condemned a man to death for spilling his seed instead of being open to children. Throughout the Bible, we see men and women being called blessed for having even one child, and St. Paul even goes so far as to say that childbearing is a unique way for women to find sanctification and thus grow closer to Christ. Procreation is revered as a holy, natural, and good part of sexuality all throughout Scripture, and we’re supposed to assume that we can just cut it out if we decide being child-free is better?
God is a God of Unity and Creation. This is reflected within the marital bed in the form of ecstasy between husband and wife, and the possible procreation that can come from the conjugal act between them.
Our God is not a barren god, and those who take on the sacrament of marriage should not act as if that is who we worship.
If you want to have sex but never want any children to result from that, you are not “burning” with sexual desire fit for marriage: you are struggling with the vice of lust. And that lust is not proper for the sacrament of matrimony or for the health of your soul.
Article on Onan’s Sin: https://www.catholic.com/magazine/print-edition/the-sin-of-onan
Humanae Vitae: http://w2.vatican.va/content/paul-vi/en/encyclicals/documents/hf_p-vi_enc_25071968_humanae-vitae.html
The history behind how all Christian churches were against contraception until the 1930s: https://www.crisismagazine.com/2015/reactions-to-the-popes-encyclical-on-contraception
Catechism on marriage, including fruitfulness; feel free to check out the footnotes quoting other writings and Scripture: http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p2s2c3a7.htm
SO hold on for this ride please and thanks.
So I was just talking to some random dude (I refuse to call him a man tbh) online and he was sweet talking me and being so kind and charming. Then it came up that I’m saving myself for marriage. And suddenly now he’s all like “oh yeah right, you’re just another easy girl looking for an easy time.” And I’m kinda sitting here scratching my head right now because I’m not really sure where he got all that out of “I’m saving myself for my future husband,” but to each his own.
I know a lot of my followers are younger, so I just wanted to say something really quick before I go to bed. Young ladies, there are going to be a lot of guys who sweet talk you. There are going to be a lot of guys who tell you the things they know you want to hear. Then these same guys will become hostile when you say you’re waiting. Or when you let them know that you’re staying pure for your God. The guy that was just kind and sweet to you suddenly becomes your biggest hater. And let me tell you something: he’s not worth your time, and he’s not worth your thoughts. What he says about you has no hold over your life. Your identity comes from God alone. If that boy gets mad because you won’t sacrifice your values just to give him a good time, that’s his problem, not yours. The right kind of man will not even think of asking you to do that for him. The right kind of man will be going to church with you and reading the Bible with you rather than angrily asking you why you won’t sleep with him.
Young sister in Christ, hear me when I tell you that you are what GOD says you are. You are not what that childish boy says you are. You are not what anyone in the world says you are. You are a cherished daughter of the Most High King. You are worth the life of your King. Don’t let that boy pressure you into giving up your values for one night just to please him. Don’t let that boy make you think there’s anything wrong with you because you’re saving yourself. You are worth the life of your King.
This goes for young men in Christ, too!! If that girl wants you to give yourself up for her pleasure, she’s not worth your time or your thoughts. Young brother in Christ, you are allowed to save yourself. The world might look at you as though you’re crazy. The world might tell you you’re insane for not wanting the pleasure. But let me tell you that you’re worth it. Let me tell you that you’re allowed to have boundaries and still be a man. The strongest, most godly men I know are the ones who hold onto their beliefs and their values and the ones who have standards for their lives. You are a son of the Most High God. Young man in Christ, don’t let that girl pressure you into giving up your values for one night just to please her. Don’t let that girl make you think there’s anything wrong with you because you’re saving yourself. You are worth the life of your King.
This also goes for those of you out there who have already given yourselves up and have decided to dedicate yourself to God once more! There’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to be pure again. There’s forgiveness and purity in the Lord. You are a child of the Most High God just like anyone else. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you otherwise. You are worth the life of your King.
I know this was long, but man the Holy Spirit really wanted me to get that out! I love you all so much! Each and every one of you are cherished by the most loving and merciful God. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like there’s something wrong with you for walking with Him!
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